The biggest lie you were ever told....

I just had a conversation with a dear friend who asked me if I would come talk to her daughter about taking medication for ADD. I don't know the whole story only that she has been on medication in the past, and has decided that she does not want to take it anymore...

I have been on medication for ADD since my sophmore year of college. A few years ago I started having liver problems and in an attempt to give my body time to heal itself I was taken off all of my ADD meds... we went 3 months without making a house payment... we had the money, I just forgot to write the check. I had never had to be an adult off of medication and I was not prepared for it... needless to say I am back on medication...

But back to the original request... And my side bar...

I understand, or at least I think I understand what this youg lady is feeling. Why do I have to take medication to be normal???

None of us what it pointed out that we are not normal, we want our lives to be exactly like everyone elses. In many ways I think we all do it. We want to know why our lives are so much harder than everyone elses. We assume that we are the only one struggling, or the only one that is affraid... that we are the only one that "fill in the blank".

THE TRUTH IS YOU ARE NOT NORMAL!!!!

The biggest lie that any of us are ever told is that we are normal. For the better part of my life I told people that I had voices in my head, Not like the insane "I har voices", but just that there were conversations in my head... ALWAYS. THe response, oh that's normal. Everybody thinks to themselves, or everybody talks to themselves at some point. The first time I ever took ritilin I sat in my room at colleg and cried... I turned off every piece of electronics and for the first time in my life I actually heard silence. The thought that went through my head... "So this is normal."

For many of you that previous statement makes no since what-so-ever... For others you know exactly what I mean.

I have heard people tell me that they don't want to be dependant on medication... diabetics, ADD, depression... alone, no friends, no body would understand me...

Consider these two statments...
EVERYBODY IS DIFFERENT
I WANT TO BE NORMAL

Conclusion: Your life sucks, deal with it. You're not normal, deal with it.

Medication makes my life easier. It does not make me normal. No thing, no force on earth could ever make me normal, nor do I want it to. I am really good at what I do because I am not like everbody else.

The biggest lie that you were ever told: IS THAT IT ISPOSSIBLE TO BE NORMAL.

you are you. I can never understand what it means to be you. I can never be black, I can never understand what it means to be black and even if I could make myself black I would still not feel and see the same things that an african-american sees and feels. We often say that "to walk a mile in somebody's shoes" ALthoug I agree this can help us to sympathize or empathize, we still don't understand exactly what somebody else felt.

Truth is relative. There is no normal, there is only chaos. Each one of us has to learn to deal with chaos as only we can. It's called growing up.

Seek out weirdness, strive to be different, look for those ways that make you YOU. Because only you can.